All of us, at one time or another, have faced a difficult decision, the kind that keeps you awake at night. Should you take that new job, or leave the old one? How will you keep your kids healthy and happy? Should you stay in the relationship you know is not working for you? I don’t know about you, but I am never at a loss for decisions to worry about!
These decisions, and the worry that accompanies them, can be crippling, making it difficult for you to even move forward.
I’m am here to tell you today, that these decisions don’t have to worry you. If you listen to your heart and take into account all the facts that you know, your decision will be right for you.
How do I know this? Because the universe is perfect. Whatever road you have chosen to take, it is the right one for you at the right time. Sounds simplistic and overly optimistic? Consider this: You remember a decision you shouldn’t have made that later filled you with regret? We all have these.
The regret you felt after a wrong or “bad” decision may have been necessary for you to grow, and to make better decisions in the future. So, ultimately it was not the wrong decision for you. In the grand scheme of life, you needed to make that “wrong” decision. It taught you something, or it revealed an aspect of life that was essential for you to grow.
You worry about decisions because you fear the outcome of making the wrong decision. Fear not, my friends, because that negative outcome you fear in the short term of your life experience, may be exactly what you need for the long term. If you accept this, you need not worry quite so much!
Wisdom traditions and organized religions refer to this as “faith”. Here’s how it can work for you when you lay awake worrying about a decision which may lead to a negative outcome. Meditate on the fact that there is a plan to the universe. As mere mortals, we do not get to know what that plan is, or what the timing is. True, the negative outcome of making a bad decision may happen. But the long arc of your life will show you it ultimately was not the wrong decision, because it actually served you well. In fact, if you decided honestly, authentically and from your heart, there can be no “wrong” decisions. With each decision you did the best you could with the information you had. If it didn’t work out in the short term, have faith that in the long term, it will put you in the right place in your life, at exactly the right time.
Relax, listen to the voice in your head and heart, breathe slowly, and take the plunge. It will all be fine.
I’d love to hear about your experiences with decision making and worry. Let me know
Dr. John Monaco